This is the second of a four part series on dealing with Casual Sex. Part Two covers making sure you are physically protected against unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.
When it comes to protecting yourself during casual sex, it doesn’t only mean “let’s not get pregnant.” There are other factors you have to take into consideration as well when having casual sex. Always assume that the person that you are sleeping with has a history of sexual partners and is having fun time with other people as well. Why does this matter? Because this makes you more susceptible to catching a sexually transmitted disease. You have to make sure you are protecting yourself against them.
DON’T RELY ON THE PILL
Birth control pills are one of the most common contraception methods, but I want to stress that being on the pill doesn’t mean you are fully protected. Yes, when taken correctly, the pill is advertised to be 99% effective. However, more often than not women miss the pill by a few hours or even a full day and that’s all it takes for the pill to not work properly. Not only that, but this method only protects against unwanted pregnancy, which means you are still need to protect yourself against STIs.
According to research, the longer you’ve been using a certain birth control method, the less effective it’s going to be. For example, let’s say that you are started taking the pill in your late teens and you are currently in your mid-twenties. In a rough estimate, you have been taking the pill for 8 years, there’s less than 50% of effectiveness rate. Sounds scary, right?
PULLING OUT: IT’S NOT A THING
The amount of times I’ve heard the phrase “I can just pull out” is too damn high. Pulling out is not a contraceptive method. There’s this thing called pre-cum which is the fluid that comes out of the penis during intercourse. This fluid usually doesn’t carry any sperm, however, sometimes it does carry residue from previous ejaculations where it may have a very small amount of sperm, which can cause pregnancy. But not only that, at the moment of pulling out, there’s no guarantee that said process will be done on time. In addition, this method still leaves both parties still susceptible to catching any sexually transmitted infection. So why take these risks?
WHY YOU SHOULD CARRY THREE CONDOMS
Regardless of whatever birth control method tonight’s partner may be on, you have to put your own protection in your own hands. Remember, that in the end, it is your body that may be affected by this transaction. My rule of thumb is to always carry three condoms. You always have to assume the best when it comes to getting lucky in this department so you have to be ready for round one, round two, and more fun time in the morning.
The fact that you carry condoms means that you are prepared and protected, but that doesn’t mean that you have to use them. Let’s say for example, it’s getting to the end of the night at the bar or house party and you still haven’t met tonight’s prey. That’s okay. Not every night has to be score night. It is more important to be with someone that you are comfortable with than just another dick.
Personally, I always like to get to know my partner very well as a person and build a friendship before doing anything. I know this is not everyone’s preference because for some people, the less they know about the partner the better. But the thing is that even though you’re engaging in casual sex, you are still sharing your body and vulnerabilities with someone else. But more about that on another post.